yeah, Albuquerque, even with almost a million people, is definitely not one of them either. unless i decide i'm willing to talk to random dudes on the internet, i suppose. (i have my profile set to "looking for women/nb folks" largely because talking to random dudes on the internet has always been less than satisfying; i do date men, but i'd rather meet them through friends-of-friends and such). so far, i like my own company so much i'm not doing that. and the friends-of-friends idea is definitely not played all the way out!