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greenstorm) wrote2021-08-18 09:27 pm
greenstorm) wrote2021-08-18 09:27 pm
Vitriol
Of course you're doing really well. You're off work with the person you said touches you in a way that you feel emotionally close and communicative with and gives you what you need, and you don't have the burden of listening to my feelings anymore. I'm going through a breakup with someone who hasn't felt emotionally close or communicative for a long time and is glad to be rid of that communication. Maybe try expressing even an empty platitude about hoping I'm doing well, or sorry this is probably hard for me?
Especially when you just stood me up for a chat this evening?
What the fuck, dude? Do you not have any compassion or empathy at all?
Oh, that's right. That sort of thing is too draining, and it wastes time when you're on a multi-day date.
Sorry about that.
It's kind of rubbing salt in the wound to say you're looking forward to talking to me, though. You explicitly don't want to hear how I'm doing, so what are you looking forward to, a performance? I don't owe you that anymore. You're no longer bothering to perform for me.
I wish I'd taken your previous relationship breakup as a bigger red flag. Who knows why she didn't feel like she could talk to you about her emotions? What a mystery.
Edited the next morning to add: oh, you're sorry, you were busy having an intense emotional experience with S, you didn't have enough energy to shut me out, so you just stood me up. Given that this breakup is because you aren't into sharing with me emotionally, that's... well.
Greenie, every moment is a sign. The way you feel now means something. It's information. Use it.
Right. Anger. It illuminates boundaries and gives the energy to enforce them.
Especially when you just stood me up for a chat this evening?
What the fuck, dude? Do you not have any compassion or empathy at all?
Oh, that's right. That sort of thing is too draining, and it wastes time when you're on a multi-day date.
Sorry about that.
It's kind of rubbing salt in the wound to say you're looking forward to talking to me, though. You explicitly don't want to hear how I'm doing, so what are you looking forward to, a performance? I don't owe you that anymore. You're no longer bothering to perform for me.
I wish I'd taken your previous relationship breakup as a bigger red flag. Who knows why she didn't feel like she could talk to you about her emotions? What a mystery.
Edited the next morning to add: oh, you're sorry, you were busy having an intense emotional experience with S, you didn't have enough energy to shut me out, so you just stood me up. Given that this breakup is because you aren't into sharing with me emotionally, that's... well.
Greenie, every moment is a sign. The way you feel now means something. It's information. Use it.
Right. Anger. It illuminates boundaries and gives the energy to enforce them.