Bitterness

Jul. 8th, 2004 12:19 pm
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Life has no pity on us. That's what makes it so beautiful, when it is beautiful, and it always is beautiful. There is ruthlessness in the enormous scope of all life, death and pain highlighting the beauty in stark contrast.

I am at Kynnin's house right now.

I think I know why people collect objects when ties with people are so much more important; you can throw objects away, but people throw you away.

I can't tell you what I'm leaving. This is his keyboard. It's curved, ergonomic, I've used it since he got it years ago. I remember typing on it when he went to work, before my own computer was functional. I used to talk to Jan on this keyboard, and roleplay, and it was his, but I never used it to interact with him.

There was a time when we had just moved in together, when I was lying on the bed in the one rented room we shared in a house in Langley, and he was almost asleep. It was late night, and everything focused suddenly, and I thought, one day we'll look back together on this moment and treasure it as something from the beginning, as something from our youth, as a starting-up and a seed of what was to come later.

I suppose it was a seed. He didn't really want me there then, even then I was imposing. I think that I wish I had known, but that would have broken so much of the beauty in between.

He's not there anymore. It's someone else; he looks different, he speaks differently, he thinks and feels differently. I've always been drawn under into my own fantasy worlds; maybe the Kynnin I knew never existed.

I remember once he took me down from school at lunch to his home, and it was Valentine's Day. On the bed he had some presents for me. That was the first year.

I remember once I went to his place where he was staying with his dad, and we went up to his room and he showed me music on the computer, mp3s, it was the first time I'd seen anything like it. Was that the third year?

I remember the nights he spent in my bedroom, in the home I grew up in, us two together downstairs with no one else there and I've never felt so safe or so centered or so loved in my life. I never have, before or since. Those times were the most precious in the world.

Now my computer isn't in the apartment anymore. I came here to pick up the vacuum to go to work, he had said the night before when I asked if it was okay that he wouldn't be here. Then, here he was.

It really is over. Oh, Gods, it really is over.

He left. He had some stuff to do, and he left, and before he left he asked me if something was wrong. What do you say to that? And to who he is now, a stranger uncomfortable with me, trying to walk a line between a sense of burden and obligation and some sort of courtesy? What do you say?

I've never been hurt like this. I mean, I never have since the beginning. I guess this is starting at the beginning again, somehow, a beginnning covered with a shellac of memories. Look, here's another, found amongst the papers that pile beside his computer desk. It's a paper with a note on it -- we talked a lot on notes, at the end -- and it says, "I love you. I'm not mad, just surprised, and we can sort this out." It's in his handwriting, he wrote that to me once, not even that long ago.

I don't know what's happening here. Last night, even this morning, for the last few months, for the last few years I thought I'd been built into a strong person. I thought that things could hurt me, sure, could be uncomfortable... but this is that place beyond that. This is the place where I'm in pain, where it's the only thing that matters. I can't do anything, right now. I can't breathe very well, I can't even cry, just make this thin sound that comes out of me and goes on forever but that no one a few feet away could hear.

I've cared about my life for a long time now, cherished it, fingered through the precious moments and the less precious moments until they glowed with the polish of much use. I've held it up, juggling the bits, picking them up again when I drop them. Now, perhaps for just a little while, I've left it hanging, free to fall and get caught on whatever it needs. I can't reach for anything right now. I can't try for anything right now. Not just yet.

I hadn't realised it would hit me like this. Weeks, months, they went by and all this was a known quantity. Everyone said, you're taking the breakup well. Everyone said, you have such a good perspective on that. Everyone said, it must be hard to prolong it like that.

It just hadn't happened yet, that's all. Now it's happened, and I'm not taking it well, and I don't have good perspective, and it was easier being with him even how it was until this weekend, and I feel bereft and I am in pain.

This is not pretty. This is not romantic and special, it's not sad and tragic, it's not good or wonderful in any way. My sinuses hurt badly from crying, my eyes are swollen, and I do not know what to do next. If I stop writing I have to decide what to do next, and I can't do that, so I keep writing.

I didn't realise how much it would hurt to lose his family. His mom was wonderful to me in so many ways for so long, and she is a wise person. Now she will be wonderful to someone else.

I didn't realise... I've said that a lot. There's something else I said, the other day. I hate the future. I hate change. I hate not realising. If something just happens long enough I'll get used to it, but then something comes up and I need to start over again. I've never had enough time to learn to be happy, when I'm happy. I've never had enough time to learn to deal with it, when I'm unhappy. I come through the other side a victim of the experiences, tossed by them and bruised and having gone through with my eyes half shut and without ever having embraced them.

I feel so miserable. I'm going to, on and off, for awhile. I guess this is half-warning; if you don't like it, don't talk to me and don't read this livejournal or this post. It's half-request; call me sometimes, smile at me and give me hugs, it will help. Most of all, though, it's defiance. I deserve to feel my misery for a little bit, after seven and a half years (the anniversary is in February, oh, that will hurt). I'm going to feel it, and that's okay with me. I wholly embrace your right to be part or not be part of it as you see fit, but I'm not going to listen to anyone who tells me there's something wrong with feeling this way.

Oh, well. I guess that's it for now. Take care.
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