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Tonight I have more access to my emotions than I have for awhile. This is maybe five or so days off birth(er, actually PMDD hormonal) control, though I'm still on the sertraline stabilizer. I had missed having visceral access to this huge breadth of love. I'm curious how it will relate to my energy use (did I mention they've developed a technical medical term, "energy envelope"? I always appreciate when language cateches up with me).

I have no more problem solving or day-to-day thinking capacity. The grocery store was using a different door while they painted outside their normal one; I went in, couldn't figure out what to do, where to go, or what I wanted despite having a list so I got a random item and bought it because I was in some kind of autopilot. I still can't reliably get the sequence of bathroom-->toilet seat up-->pants down-->pee-->toilet paper-->flush toilet-->wash hands as much as I'd like. But I can feel the feeling of missing people.

And I can do narrative better. Siri and Whiskey seem to sense that it's a rough night and are staying close, protectively.

The big sky is coming back for the winter. There's ice on the north side of the house that will probably still be there in April. My bedroom is warm and comfy. While, surprisingly, being off the pill has removed all pain below my belly button, I'm getting stronger and more reliable pain in the window an hour to three hours after I eat. It's a stupid metaphor for loneliness, pain after the brief pleasure of eating or company.

I remember now that love and loneliness are two sides of a single coin for me. Access to one seems to mean access to the other. And yet, here I am loving my home and my self and my life at the same time.

Poly means always being lonely for someone, or is that just a human thing? I don't think most people feel it often?
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It felt like an island
Welcome after the storm at sea
First thing I thrust my shovel into the blessed soil
And planted a tree in thanks

So long ago now I left my storms
And over times my storms left me
Ebbing from my island home
And the tree I planted there

Her trunk is thick now
And the storms barely a memory
Every spring flowers crown her
But I've still never tasted fruit

***

In movies the waterfall is a line on the horizon and a roar of mist. We move towards it and friends pour over the edge, lost from view. The only way they can go is down, and that must be my path too. It's too late to ask them if, for a moment, the fall felt like flying.

***

His voice was a key
My heart was a lock
Even over cheap speakers
I could almost feel warmth
The first I could remember
A low thrum that almost felt
Like love.

He's still alive
And so am I
No forwarding addresses
Both with lines on our faces
And older eyes.

***

I used to say he came through my heart
Like a stone through a plate glass window

He picked up worms off the sidewalk and moved them to the grass
Believing we could all participate in salvation.

He turned my heart into a ground-glass whirlwind
Into a machine made for loving everything

By the end I believed in the kindness that healed
And he no longer did.
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My counselor and I were brainstorming what I'd need to live on if I can't work anymore, and how that might look. I've been feeling that this life, which I love, has an expiry date and maybe so should I in that case. I can't imagine giving up my animals -- my family -- and my ability to grow things. I can't picture just languishing on Mom's or a friend's second bed until my body annoys them into kicking me out.

I could be happy here even if the deterioration continues; emotionally I can handle not being able to think or move much, just lying with my dogs, getting up when I can. As long as I can feed myself and run the house -- paring away the extra animals, if there was a way to get supportive infrastructure and maybe replace wood with fully electric heat, set up a hydrant in the field so I don't need to carry water, fix the road into the back pasture so I don't need to carry feed as far. I'm not sure how I'd do that with less money but it left me with a sense of hope, that maybe it wouldn't need to be November that this life is over, but could be longer.

Either way I'm happy now, and happy to have had this.

I could spend a lot of time being frustrated that more prompt access to the medical system might actually have meant I didn't have to worry about this, that it's possible a couple timely specialist appointments would have meant I'd be perfectly ok right now, but there'll be time to do that if I do in fact lose my job because of it.

I'm still struggling with the idea that I might have to go on disability just to wait for specialists to get back to me, not because I'm irreparably sick but because I just haven't got to that right pill yet, if it exists. I can't imagine shifting my whole outlook to being ok with a lesser and continuously lessening level of functionality for a couple years, then getting used to the idea of going back to work full time after that again. It feels dislocating? Though I've got used to things I can't imagine before, I suppose.

None of this should maybe be as alarming as it sounds, but things are definitely deteriorating and I don't see any reason they should stop unless I can actually manage to get appointments with folks -- my doctor is currently scheduling four months out except there's maybe one to two days per month you can call in to get an appointment, after that her schedule is full and you have to try and hit the window next month. I can call the nurse's line and see what they recommend but just doing this stuff takes basically 80% of the capacity I have, and I can't navigate the system and work at the same time.
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The kitten I ended up with is firmly integrated into the home and is growing up. He is Very Smart-- he learns super quickly from experience, and more than any other animal I've known he is able to attach actions and consequences in a less-general way. For instance, he understands that mugs might be hot so he approaches all my mugs cautiously after one unfortunate paw incident, but is unconcerned about water bottles. He knows not to attack bare feet but needs to learn not to attack each different pattern of socked feet, and when I'm putting on pants the dangling leg of the pants is fair game until my foot comes out the bottom. He knows when jumping on me not to use his claws, and is learning that per different pair of pants too. That said, the skin on my hands and arms hasn't been fully intact for awhile even while he has learned to mostly keep his claws in when playing. However he's a bit of a bully and isn't great at reading the room around the other cats. He's especially obsessed with Hazard, and will jump onto hazard's back with his arms around the older cat's neck and just hang on like a little black cape. Also, he has never been completely successfully photographed.

His primary mode is flitting from cover to cover like Things in the backdrop of a horror movie, or alternatively curling up with his paws around my neck and his head under my chin, sleeping and purring. Kittens, right?

Solly was disappearing for a day or a day and a half at a time and returning for food for the last little while. This concerned me for obvious reasons and I built more fencing, blocked holes in the fence-- and then the neighbour who has his own two LGDs tracked me down and let me know he saw her get hit by a car on Friday and had been trying to track me down and tell me. Now, when he told me she was in the fence and doing fine. I've been in the habit of doing a quick body-check when I haven't seen her in a day, just running my hands over all her limbs and spine and belly to check for injuries because who knows what could happen to her out there, and she'd always and continues to be fine.

The weather has been really mild and I'd made her a dog house in case that's why she was disappearing, but she didn't use it. After learning she'd been hit I let her come in the house and she stuck in there all day when allowed. She's still acting very afraid of Avallu even though Avallu politely ignores her now, though who knows what they get up to when I'm not around. Ideally she'd feel comfortable using the downstairs dog door but that's where Avallu sleeps, so it seems unlikely. At this point I'm letting her in through the front door to the upstairs, and it looks like she wants to be a velcro/house dog. If she could just let herself in and out I'd be fine with that, though I'll need to work on resource guarding around the cats. Like Avallu used to, she guards snuggles with me. I've also made her a second dog house that she seems to like better - at least, she slept in it last night. I'm not leaving her in at night until the upstairs is better set up, too.

She's been playing with the next door dogs when she escapes and I suspect she'd like a similar-aged companion. Four dogs at once is A Lot, but it does make sense to keep in age-similar pairs. Nothing is happening on that front while I still have pigs and a scary financial situation though.

Avallu seems to be doing well. He's staying outside more and is more active so it looks like the antibiotics worked to clear up his UTI. His x-rays showed a bit of arthritis in his back and he tends to want me to let him in and out instead of using the dog door, so I'm wondering if he does have a bit of pain and I need to talk to the vet about that. HE's not young anymore.

Thea is a little food-guardy around Solly, and I suspect would like more solid routine around food. They all get fancy fresh meat when the grocery store has extra in my expiry-day pickups and that semi-rhythm seems to upset her. We're getting into the time of year when they all need lots of extra calories, so I can start supplementing with fatty pork belly and that will likely help. I also want to renovate the A frame she chose for a doghouse so she has more visual range and more protection in it.

The other cats all still are very snuggly and also miffed at Bear. I don't blame them, since his primary cat interaction mode is attacking, and he initiates most interactions by attacking from stealth. Whiskey and Bear have been sleeping on my bed until I build a door to my bedroom, and Whiskey is very happy with that but even more happy when I work from home and sit in just exactly this one spot at this one time with my computer. Hazard wants me to carry him around whenever the kitten is nearby so he can't be attacked. Demon has taken it on himself to play with the kitten a lot of the time, which means he's often socialled out, but he very much appreciates quiet petting if he's protected from the kitten.

It's still extremely warm out, at least for this time of year, just hovering around freezing this week. We've had maybe 4" of snow total and it's mostly either melted or subsided into ice sheets. There's no insulation on the ground if the temperature drops quickly so I expect there'll be burst pipes in town all over this year-- unless we don't actually get those low temperatures. The ground has just finally got cold enough to begin freezing duck and goose feathers to the ice sheet overnight so they get left in the ice when the birds get up in the morning. I'm unsure if they'll go indoors or not.

When Avallu was feeling so bad I took down the original dog bed (crib mattress) I got for Thea that has gone unused. He slept on it and seemed to feel less painful on it, but now that the fire is on downstairs the cats have taken it over. He's far too polite to ask even a single cat to move off it, so he whimpers and settles down on the concrete. Combine that with pottery stuff and I'm making a pottery bench to replace my downstairs table, with the goal of enough room underneath for a second dog bed. I'm also making up cat beds that might be more appealing to them, potentially to put on the wall to give myself more floor space. I've also put up one shelf for pottery and need to put up a bunch more. There's no reason not to display this stuff. So, doing a bunch of rearranging down there ideally to increase both functionality for me and liveability for the animals.

I also finally started cutting out my winter sewing, which has been a challenge with one kitten, one Very Large dog, and three cats in the room. I basically made it work by putting up a gate to keep Solly in the kitchen, feeding the cats, and dumping Bear outside on the deck that doesn't have any way to the ground. By the time he had figured out how to climb down and gone around in through the dog door I'd cut out two and a half pairs of pants.

I take so much comfort in these loved ones, even when literally the entire floor and hall is covered in bodies and it's challenging to move around.

Had some great social days at the pottery studio, answering questions at the open house, and I met someone at the community studio who's equally obsessed with wheel throwing who I can actually talk to about it, so that's nice, but it doesn't feel the same kind of safe and interesting and loving that my pack does.
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I had to take Avallu in to the emergency vet last weekend.

It's difficult here. There are basically no vets. There's a daytime emergency vet 2 - 2.5 hours away and no nighttime emergency vets. There are no farm animal vets, except some which do horses.

So if a dog or cat is not doing well I need to make the call early enough that they don't die in the 20 minutes of "first you need to pay for a virtual vet to diagnose and certify an emergency" and "then you need to load the animal and drive them into the vet".

I'll spare you the details but Avallu is ok. It was maybe a slipped disc and a UTI compounding each other? But I was afraid. He loves me so much and wants to do what I ask, but he was in a lot of pain. Loading him was rough.

The vets were great with him, though, and very good with my "he's dog reactive and person selective". They were polite to him and he was polite to them despite his pain, and they were adept at blocking all other dogs from his sight.

They were very busy, though. I ended up sitting in the car for six hours in 2.5AQI 200-300,mostly around the top end. That is where there's enough smoke it's hard to see the end of the street, and ash accumulates on the car in a visibly speckled layer over six hours. I'd left without a mask so by the end not just my throat, sinuses, and eyes were burning but also the skin on my face.

I'd also left in "shoot the neighbour's home, better cover up when I step outside to look at the morning" booty shorts, without putting on real pants. They show the bottom of my tattoo, which I think invited a young woman to give me a card and invite me to her church.

Oh well.

Pup is feeling better on painkillers, though he's noticably whiny when they wear off. He's moving though, and able to lie down, even on hard surfaces. He's also taking his pills well when they're encased in duck confit.

It's been a long time since I felt that level of adrenaline in my body. Over time, living here on my own, I've been allowing the barriers that keep me functional to wear down. I'll let feelings make me stop, let them alter my behaviour. Maybe I'll hug something. Maybe I'll cry. Maybe I'll go be curious about something. That all seems to be at the expense of calm, quick, measured behaviour in an emergency, though. I am not ready to lose Avallu and it took me a bit to get myself together when it became apparent there was a problem.

Money played into that too, but that's a different post.

Anyhow, pup is home and very loved and is not in big danger.
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The other day Angus messaged me to say he'd biked past our old apartment and it looked exactly the same. That night I dreamed about him and woke up with a fragment humming in my mind:

I dreamed of you so hard
My love
It did my heart good
And it was almost enough
.

On the weekend mom came up. She's farmsitting while I'm gone doing pagany and pottery things and visiting Tucker. I had rested pretty much solid the two days before and was going to clean up on the day she arrived -- it's a 12-hour drive so I thought I'd have plenty of time to tidy up the house. Turns out she left at 4am, so she arrived when things were still chaos (I'd got about halfway through and then taken a nap, thinking I'd have time).

It's actually quite a nice visit but despite having told her about my weird body stuff lately I haven't been able to actually rest while she's here. I'm pushing through, and that just means I go through the heirarchy of symptoms: tired, then dizzy, then can't breathe, then headache, and then the next seems to be that my muscles alternately are too tight and too loose and my joints hurt. I could say, "hey, I'm going to go lie down for a bit" and she does that so it's not like there's not precedent, but I don't. The feeling of being a prey animal growing up is embedded so deep. The feeling of not being supported emotionally goes so deep.

That said, mom asked some questions when I was telling her about stuff, especially PMDD, and she seemed curious about diagnosis and supportive. I know she had some pretty intense cycle issues through her life, though I suspect they were mostly physical (?). Not sure she'd mention it if they weren't. It all comes from somewhere.

I'm worn out and I want to go somewhere safe and quiet and curl up in the dark and feel my feelings and be loved. And it's not-- it's just a wound and I can't imagine my life without it, nor what healing it would look like. I love mom so much but there's a level where we don't know how to be family to each other, or maybe don't know how to speak to each other about it. I don't feel like she doesn't love me. I see the things she does in her own love language, cleaning and coming up to farmsit and doing conversation with me and for so long trying to get me to exercise with her. I just don't know how to be parented by anyone other than myself, maybe.

And I don't know how to be someone's kid. This maybe hits one of those wells of shame around PDA I carry around: I'm not consistent, I can't do what I'm supposed to do, and I know that to mean that most people don't believe that I love them and can't feel that I care. I withdrew from my brothers more or less completely because I didn't want them to depend on me and then for me to not be there when they really needed me. Part of this is based on an old unhealthy understanding of what support looks like -- no one person really can be there all the time, and that's ok. Part of it is that I really can't be there in the same ways that most people can. And, yeah, I carry shame for that.

Anyhow, it's overcast and I'm sad today and my emotions are feeling tender and I'm at work looking like a normal person for all I'm worth. I'll spend time being tired.

North

Jul. 7th, 2023 08:35 am
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I'm still thinking about the landscape here.

Part of love, for me, is knowing something deeply. I love things that reveal themselves to me. I love being aware of patterning, of uniqueness, of what differentiates the beloved particularly from others of its kind.

When I left the coast I had a sense, not just of the ecology of the landscape, but of the ecological history and much of the geology. When I walked there I had a sense of the depth of sediment in the Fraser Valley underfoot, of the thick layers of sand out by point grey and laid down by an explosive reversal of the Fraser River, of the old edges of the ocean that etched flat places into the north shore mountains as the weight of glaciers lightened and the crust rebounded in fits and starts. I could feel the tall ghost cedars from the past marching around me in the city streets and the echoes of millions of wings and bird cries in the now-drained migratory stop in the wide sweep of wetlands now cut into suburbia and fields. Knowledge of the landscape lived within me, I was a part of it, and I loved it.

The north was so overtly a shock in not being able to recognise the plants around me that I didn't think of the landscape at first. There are so many plants here that I've learned through visuals and physical interaction first, and many of them I don't know their names yet even. The names get hitched on to my knowledge of the plants easily when I see them now, and regardless of names they're becoming old friends.

But plants are not the only thing here. The landscape is so present. One of the reasons I love it here is that the sky and the vegetation are in balance: unlike the prairies there's a definite topographic and vegetative presence, and unlike the coast the sky is actually visible through trees and hills.

That's not what I was trying to say.

What I was trying to say is that I can read the landscape here reasonably well now. A glance at the vegetation, at the soil texture in a road cut, and I can see into the past to the old edges of glaciers receding and dropping gravel, to under-ice rivers of sediment carrying and sorting gravel into sinuous wrinkles. The silhouette of the top of a black spruce, that little bulbous knob, speaks of rock ground to the finest dust and then left to settle in ponds left by chunks of lingering ice. My own land, Threshold, has deep rich clay from the huge lake that stretched for a huge swathe of the interior before it poured out towards the coast and made what we know now as the Fraser River.

I'm learning to know the land. I'm learning to know it in the back of my mind, without thinking about it, cataloguing knowledge that I can pull out later if asked.

As I know the landscape it becomes part of me. It becomes as much an extension of me as anything, maybe not as layered with connection and interaction as Threshold but certainly the cradle of time and space in which I am rocked, held, loved. The north welcomes people in a way that the coast never did in my experience, maybe because it was so disfigured and damaged by development down there. Those forests shudder at the continuous lines of hikers snaking through every green space, trailing urine and trash and compaction and status-seeking fitness experiences through every bit of every type of ecosystem that's left intact. Here? The land draws you in, revealing little pockets of this plant or that soil or a scar on a tree to indicate an old oolichan grease trail. We remade the lower mainland in our image; the north remakes us slowly but surely in its own image.

It's not to say I'm done learning here: there's more to learn than one or even a thousand lifetimes can encompass. It's to say I'm a person of this land now, our traditional frame of ownership reversed if you will, it will always live in me and it feels so familiar now, like perfectly worn-in clothing. Like home.
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I've always known that birth comes only out of death
Rebirth
After dark times.
So much of my life has
Felt like
Been
Dying. So many moments
I walked into death
And out the other side
Into what lay beyond. New.
Newly born.

Never before have I asked,
If I'm on a machine
Bring my dog to me to kiss me one last time
And turn it
off.

Never before have I asked,
Let my stuffed animal,
The only object which has stayed all my life,
Let her be with me at the
end.

There's no immediacy
Not the pain I always walked into
Born young and young again
Just the obscuring swirl
Of muddied waters
That drop their silt so far out at sea
I may never see them clear.
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Right now it's my job to love all my animals super hard, and super carefully, and super thoughtfully. It's to make sure I spend lots of time with all of them letting them know they're good, and occasionally if they are not good figuring out what's going on and offering them an alternative. For the first several decades of my life I did this sort of thing without thinking, but since I've only recently recovered my ability to love this feels like jumping in to a very deep pool without taking a breath.

It leads to lots of lovely times, snuggling and watching, but also sometimes to just not knowing what to do and reminding myself to have patience.

Avallu is 7 today. I hate that I likely have fewer years with him in the future than I have had. So many tornjak owners have groups of 3-6, they're good in packs where they have traditionally protected sheep and generally done their intricate social structures. While Solly will keep my hands full for a couple years, I don't know that I ever want to be without a tornjak. Even with that, though, Avallu is unique. It's with him that I first really understood how much an LGD is a relationship partner rather than a being who takes commands. I've come to value his perspective deeply, and he trusts mine for the most part.

Thea has been doing magnificently with Solly and Avallu. She keeps them separated, and when Solly gets too energetic at chickens, Thea and I will glance at each other to see who will intervene. She also does magnificently with, for instance, the little black bear outside the back fence the other day. I appreciate more than ever how calm she is with the livestock.

Solly is learning fast, which means she's doing lots of experimentation. Aside from recall she doesn't have a clear trajectory, one day will be better and the next will be worse. Her recall is excellent because she adores my attention, and I am careful to call her back and snuggle her and tell her I love her often, so she doesn't associate it only with bad things or with being put in. She's maybe somewhat calmer with the geese, learning to walk by them slowly, but the chickens are so flappy and interesting I need to really figure out how not to have chasing them reinforced for her. I may have to build them a new coop. I am not entirely sure what her mouthy/grabbiness is supposed to achieve, I know she's trying to get me to do something, and she's doing it a little less. It's obviously not an ok behaviour to maintain since she's a huge dog, will be bigger, and can do real damage that way. At first I would give her a stick to chew on instead, and she would take those and chew on them eagerly but that led to her mouthing my arm more often. Now I just turn away. Need to think about this more.

I put 1300 square feet of potatoes in the ground yesterday, or rather, under straw. I have a couple rows left. It's difficult, whatever is going on with me, I had to sleep and rest for nearly two days to be able to do that, and then I woke up this morning with my arms and legs tingling and buzzing. I need to get myself in order for the doctor's visit this week and push for, I guess more tests, but I don't know which ones. At any rate I'll have potatoes. The straw is a great weed suppressant, and I'll put down chips in the rows between, and that'll give me an easier summer of management.

Forecast for the summer is steadily higher-than-average temperatures. The grain crops are not doing well, it's too dry, and farmers pulled off an early hay crop but it was small. Fires are staying away from my town for now but the situation is pretty worrisome.

I think less about that, though, and more the practice of love which my animals need from me right now. It's been a long time since I've had humans so absent from that part of my landscape. I feel like my 12-year-old self, growing gardens and snuggling with my dogs and rabbits and nearly completely divorced from the doings of humans.

Tomorrow I will have to get back to work after my week off sick and see if I can stay upright and awake. Send good thoughts please.

Lenses

Jun. 2nd, 2023 09:22 am
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Let me tell you two stories.

In one story I have a week of vacation planned with someone very important to me: Josh. I see him in person very seldom. We're going to do something very important to me, planting this year's garden. The spring is early this year and so I wait to plant my garden until he'll be here, but that puts me behind the season. By the time he gets here the soil is dead dry, hard to till, and a couple days before he gets here my basement starts flooding whenever I run the water. I can't even get a plumber to show up until Josh is actually here.

So in the end of this story not only do I miss planting things with Josh, but I spend the whole vacation with him managing the plumber and managing the animals with very little water and at some points no working water in the house or even working toilets. In the middle of this we're doing a pig butcher and a bunch of chicks are hatching: hatching into a completely chaotic space with no real room for the brooder. With no water. We don't get to have showers, the plumber finishes the evening before Josh leaves, nothing gets planted, the field isn't even fully tilled, and the vacation is both not relaxing and doesn't leave a lot of time for connection since we're both managing all the stuff. It will also probably cost more than I have left on my credit card, and so I'm not even sure what will happen there but paying it off at credit card interest rates will suck even if I can squeeze it on there. I certainly don't have money to replace the shower that's been taken out, so I'm down a bathroom and I get to spend my summer re-insulating and drywalling a couple rooms in my house. Fun.

Ok. That's one story.

In the next story it's an early spring. The soil will be warmer than it was last year when I go to plant, so things should move fast when I get my seeds in the ground. Josh has come up to plant and gets some of the fields tilled, but my waterline has broken and starts flooding the basement so we need to switch activities. Thank goodness Josh is here because he's my low-water camping buddy so he's pretty unphased by living in a house without much plumbing for a couple days, and he's also a project management engineer so when "flooding basement" turns into "replace waterline, some of the foundation, and some of the sewer" he's able to understand what's going on, put the decisions into clear terms and help me make them, and communicate/oversee the plumber and excavator that needs to dig up my waterline clear back to my well. I don't know what I would have done without his skill and support, and he only makes it up here twice a year or so. It's such luck that he's here. That's good because we also have a butchering happening during all this, but luckily I had booked the processor for this one so all we had to do was drive the carcasses down and hand them off.

Throughout all of this I have ducks and geese hatching. I'd forgotten how much I like them: incubator-hatched geese that you sing to will imprint on your voice, they're not fearful and they're not taught by their parents to be fearful so they love cuddles and being nibbled on the backs of the neck with fingers. In the few moments I get to sit down my cats jump onto me to give me lots of love.

Since the excavator is here anyhow he can run up to the field and dig holes quick for my apple trees, so I'll get to spend a day or two less doing that. And that's good, because the apple trees have just arrived, bareroot, and need to go in the ground immediately.

I get to have a good look at the inside of Threshold, see where things come and go from the well, replace some concrete where unbeknownst to me the water had undermined it and crumbled it soft, and pull the waterline into the house instead of running it through the wall so it's much less likely to freeze in future. This means my bathroom needs to be demolished, but the shower there was problematic for a number of reasons, and a proper drain for it can be installed now. I can't afford to reinstall the shower yet, but when I can I won't have to use the plunger on it to make it drain. I put flagging tape in the trench above the waterline so it won't be harmed in the future.

And while all this is happening, we have frost! If I'd planted my tomatoes early they might well have been frost-burned, but as it is I only lost a couple. With the water back on I have water pressure like I haven't had in years -- I guess mud was coming in through the crack in the waterline and messing up the pressure -- so I'll be able to water as I plant.

I'm deeply agnostic about a lot of things, but I like the idea that my home protects me. She kept me from planting the garden too early, and made sure in a way I couldn't ignore that my water would be both sufficient to run the garden and fixed long-term. I wasn't irritated with any of this, and I'm maybe a little less afraid of the money aspect than I have been in the past: some friends have helped me out with past house emergencies, and so I'm not as afraid that I'll have to sell the house to deal with this as I might normally be.

And, as if by magic, I'd just got into clay and was watching videos on how to find wild clay with Josh the day before the excavator came. Under the foundation the excavator pulled up chunks of sticky, squishy clay, very pure seeming, and I pulled some chunks out. A pot made of clay from my home's foundation, fired in the yard, feels like very powerful magic indeed.

My garden will be in at the same time as last year but with lots of water and warm soil it should grow nice and fast.

And I have both plentiful lovely water and a renewed appreciation for that bounty.

Poem-a-day

May. 23rd, 2023 06:45 pm
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#42

Maybe it’s only that the geese include me
As they circle the yard in a group,
Speaking softly among themselves:
Hello! Are you there? I’m still here.

Some days I write twenty pages
And some days my throat closes
And words escape me. Even then
I want someone to say, I’m still here.

Humans like consistency and I do too
But it’s not something I can provide.
The geese don’t mind
If I join their slow circuit or not
But when I do they say softly,
Hello. I’m still here.

Poem-a-day

May. 9th, 2023 03:38 pm
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Not posted to fb yet, but there will be two today. One written a couple days ago, the other written today.

#15 Threshold-my-home, or, the trauma from years of displacement begins to ease.

Cloverhome
Scents of bees and safety and mom when I was little
Summer beckoner of lazy shade
And misty mornings with glimpses of glades between trees
Greeter-with-roses, pink and five-petalled and fragrant
Giver-of-bounty, grass and geese and aspens and apples
Wintersafe
Cedar cave of warmest wood
Ship’s hull that cups me against the wind
Place with warm fire’s beating heart
And the snore of sleeping dogs
Your walls are my living skin
Your fields are my tendrils of thought
That lead me
Back to the door
Way
Of
My
Self


#16 First smoke of wildfire season

When I write I think about displacement
Every day.
When the fires come I think about it
Every minute.

It’s a hot spring and my body is tense already
With the memory of wildfire smoke
And fleeing with trailers of animals
And that’s when I had somewhere to go.

Tension that came from years ago
Fleeing poverty from roomshare to apartment
Trading freedom for a roof over the head
And a couple months in the same bedroom.

Someone always helps me in the end
But it’s hard to trust the world without a system.
What happens when I’m not pretty enough
Or smart enough for this charity to fulfill my rich friends?

Whatever soft space once existed
Whatever joy peeks out and runs wild
In clear summer air is scarred
With drifting smoke awakening every old terror.

Land of my land of my land of my land of my
Heart of my heart of my heart of my heart of my
Body of my body of my body of my body of my
Memory of my memory of my memory of home.

You for whom the earth is not your body
You for whom the walls are not your skin
You for whom the seasons are not your heartbeat
Save me now
I’m curled under the bed
Hiding
I’d be crying if it was safe to move.
Bury me here
So my body can finally stay home.
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I've been brushing Avallu some every evening, just taking out a basketball-sized amount of hair or so every night. He's starting to blow his coat, gently and not spectacularly. He's very happy when I go find him every night and bring him in for brushing.

Tonight I took off his collar and brushed under it. He was super super happy, tilting his neck to help me get the spots I was missing and then lying down with his head along my leg and closing his eyes and sighing happily as I very gently worked through the under-collar fur with a brush. For the most part his coat is very non-matting but that neck spot, under his ears, and the very backs of his feathers can get really dense and also really matted. I was just quietly brushing him, he was slowly falling asleep making little happy sounds, the house was quiet. Everything was exactly right with the world.

After having brushed out tonight's basketball-sized amount of hair from mostly that narrow band around his neck (and having spent lots of time petting him and snuggling) I went to put his collar on and even with all the hair removal it barely fit. I had to carefully part and de-poof quite a bit of his fur to get it on.

I hate to think that he's halfway through his life now, or more. The bond increases with all of them every year.
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Avallu turns 7 soon. For a large breed he's starting to not be young anymore.

As I sit here with all the cats and dogs around me, with maybe needing to take Hazard in to get his teeth looked at and Avallu's birthday looming, I'm thinking.

One of the gifts we give our pets, so rare outside our walls, is the ability to get old.
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Love in unexpected places
In a winter of firelight
In your persistence
After two thousand days of seeking
Two thousand days of being the only one for whom my presence
Has ever brought
Peace

Turn about is fair play and I've never been fair
But now somehow--

**

The young own the world and you're no exception:
Fearless, cocksure, taking every pleasure with the ease of long practice
Your lazy sprawl believes you are always welcome, always cherished
And by believing you make it so

**

When it started we didn't speak the same language
And for years I wished we could talk
But you lean on me when you're afraid and I've seen your dreams.
When I cry you're the safest place I know.
You dissolve my despair into peace.
We have our secrets:
I have yours and you have mine.

**

Safety used to be my head on the inner curve of a human arm
Held, and drifting to sleep
No one holds me like that anymore
And the memory fades
Replaced by the dance of flames
The smallest purring small spoon
And the sigh of a dog dreaming

**

Guardian I named you
Spirit of the land
Soul of my earth.
I'd hoped you'd be brave
You have the courage to find joy every day.
How could I have known that not just wolves and bears but also desperation and despair would flee before you?
You see me as whole and protect me, map and purpose, flesh and soil
And inch by gleaming inch gain ground before my monsters.
Guardian of my land,
Soul of my earth,
Spirit of my spirit.
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Equinox has passed. Fittingly, this is the week where snow is warming into liquid water. Geese group up and each group guards its puddle, splashing and spraying water and posturing and calling to each other. Everything is dripping. The driveway ice has dropped two inches, leaving a tarp and my truck and any other obstructions to the sun sitting on pillars while streamlets run down and back to disappear under the snow. The fences have grown a foot as the snow slowly subsides: on my one window that was covered I can see it consolidate from fluffy white into shimmering blue ice underneath. This is how glaciers are formed.

I celebrated this equinox by loving things, gently and carefully: my animals, which I've been practicing with, and people just a little around the edges. Maybe I'm waiting to love my garden because it's such a huge project, such a huge part of my heart, but it's beginning to seem possible. It feels like learning to walk: one step at a time, sometimes I try and find that I'm back on the ground, and sometimes I cross a distance without noticing until afterwards.

I went out and shoveled the sundeck without any clothes on at solar noon and my skin couldn't remember what to do: do we sunburn with the sun still so low in the sky? How do we deal with this kind of radiant heat? It was lovely. It's reached 8 or 10 degrees out even.

I'm getting a little less sleepy. I'm not functional, but I do have moments when I'm beginning to feel close to fully awake. I still can't think well. I've never had good working memory, but for a long time I've been able to repurpose the part of my mind that forms words right before I speak them for that use. Now that is gone too. I can't perform data manipulations in my head at all: I can't do 10 + 12 unless I write down the 10 and the 12, for example, because I can't remember the original numbers plus do the operation in my head at the same time, but if I'm looking at them I can easily perform the operation.

Doctor's appointments continue, slowly.

Hazard has been roaming outside again, and his coat is soft instead of heavy. I watched him jump atop a pallet the other day, and when it fell over he shook himself off and complained to me. It's good to see. I was worried about him and now I'm not, though I suspect I'll need to prepare for next winter to keep him sufficiently entertained.

Whiskey continues to snuggle me relentlessly and Demon bestows the favour of his lounging, purring attention twice a day or so. Whiskey has definitely won in the last several years: he gets to sit on me more or less when he wants now, laptop or not, though he respects mealtimes.

Avallu comes in for snuggling most evenings, waiting outside the dog door and distressing the cats by blocking it with his back, and Thea comes in many mornings. This weather makes Thea ecstatic: she runs in joyous circles around the house and poor Avallu has more invitations to play than he can handle. He'll come put his side against my leg and lean, looking at me for help as she rockets around. She's dug a bed beside a large square haybale, the 3' x 8' ones, and has set up most of her housekeeping there. As livestock guardian dogs they have such a stable temperament and they are usually very low-energy unless there's a threat. I rarely get to see them act like playful puppydogs, and it's fun. As the season heats up they'll seek shade and slow down again.

I sit on the couch with the cats and watch "vocal coach reacts to--" videos and sing along. Last night I made a chocolate cake to go with the can of pork stew I pulled out of the pantry. I've permanently opened the curtains to the patio door and I've even cleaned the porcelain parts of the bathroom. Each day is incrementally healing. It's been so painful; it's just good to not be in pain, and so good to be actively loved by living creatures who accept me absolutely.

The days are getting better maybe but I'm not keeping track. We're all tilting towards the sun together but I'm not thinking about it right now. It's just a day that's actually ok, and then another.

Hazardous

Feb. 10th, 2023 04:33 pm
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Two nights ago: poor sleep and a cat in pain. Yesterday: predawn emergency vet run to the city two (and a half) hours away, waiting for answers at a friend's place until late afternoon. Today: medicating cat and trying to nap my nervous system back into alignment.

When he was in pain he came to me for help. I'm glad I could help.

I'm glad I could bring him home.
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Oh goodness, put me in a group with other plant people, even just virtually, and I just light up. It's particularly obvious because I've been watching myself on all these work meetings, and now I watch myself on the landrace plant group meeting and I go from barely managing not to look completely bored to just glowing.

Ok, message received, data collected. What to do about it is the harder question.
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It was awhile ago I came to terms with my dad living inside me: first my stepdad, charming, insecure, demanding, controlling, smart but maybe not clever, failing his whole life, pretentiously stringing together obscure references in patterns no one else saw, never letting anything go.

Sometime after that I came to terms with my dad living inside me, at least how I picture him from the small fragments I have; he ran off when I was very young so as not to hurt me, mom said. He lived in the bush for awhile in Florida, I was told. He was happy at the end, I was told, and left to ponder the implications of that. Hard relate, to be honest.

It's now, in this spacious winter when I'm alone up in my home, splitting wood and hauling water, that I am finally coming to terms with my mom living inside me. For so much of my life she has been the only parent I know. So much of my resistance in life has been to her voice, has been to learning not to have her voice be mine. It takes a lot of silence for me to finally hear the whispers of her as an accepted part of me. It doesn't escape me, though, that I am so much of her embodied, and with the exception of her marriages my life echoes hers in broad strokes in many ways.

It feels like something profound will happen when I love all the people who are parts of me, as parts of me, fully and without reservation. I'm not there now but it seems within mindshot, a couple glades over, a little ways down the path.
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I was sewing until the machine started skipping stitches. I fiddled with it a bit, got it better but not all the way, and eventually drifted away before frustration showed, when it was just the lightest breath of disinclination to continue.

Some time later I find myself on the ground, lying with the heat of the woodstove on one side and the dog on the other. The floor is filthy and I'm belly down, face turned one way to watch the glow of the stove for awhile and then the other way to watch Avallu dreaming. My hand is on his shoulder; his paw is on my shoulder. I know I need to shower and sleep so I can work the next day but the knowledge is distant. It doesn't effect me.

In a world with any meaning I would watch him sleep awhile, and then he would wake up and take the watching shift while I slept. Maybe a noise would happen and we'd hurl ourselves out the door, maybe grabbing boots and a jacket, to watch for the fox. When we came back in a few minutes later it would feel extra warm and one of us would sink back into a doze and the other into loving regard.

I'm typing so I can capture this tiny glimpse of how the world should be so I can go shower and leave that world, the world with any meaning, behind.

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