I have a very clear and visceral sex boundary with many many folks, as in, there are lots of folks with whom I am I guess sex-repulsed (to use ace terminology). I know that spills over into other kinds of intimacy, where I don't trust people to not be trying to connect sexually under the guise of friendship (shoot, there's a term for that). It would be amazing to be in a place where I could honour that boundary and then also maybe learn to trust some folks anyhow. Because I don't believe such a place could exist, and because I can't imagine folks could be okay with me giving, not just a soft no, but a hell no, and still interact with me-- yeah.
And I quite often really dislike people when they're "too close" but can like them fine from a distance, what would it be like to be in an intimate environment with someone like that? I have no idea.
I've always had a tendency to be very emotionally intimate/vulnerable with folks pretty quickly, to have that get mistaken for... I don't know, sex isn't the issue so much as some form of normative commitment. A place that allowed for intimacy outside of that normative structure would be great. I like people's souls, I guess? And that doesn't need to have meaning outside itself.
This is my PDA joyfully going to battle with my learned resistance/trauma around being reduced to a pretty girl, incidentally. I love confronting my own stuff.
I bet there are lots of bad groups doing tantra workshops too.
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Date: 2022-04-27 03:56 pm (UTC)And I quite often really dislike people when they're "too close" but can like them fine from a distance, what would it be like to be in an intimate environment with someone like that? I have no idea.
I've always had a tendency to be very emotionally intimate/vulnerable with folks pretty quickly, to have that get mistaken for... I don't know, sex isn't the issue so much as some form of normative commitment. A place that allowed for intimacy outside of that normative structure would be great. I like people's souls, I guess? And that doesn't need to have meaning outside itself.
This is my PDA joyfully going to battle with my learned resistance/trauma around being reduced to a pretty girl, incidentally. I love confronting my own stuff.
I bet there are lots of bad groups doing tantra workshops too.
Hm.