Sigh

[greenstorm]

Dear okc.

You're set up tinder-style now, which means that for someone to message me I need to "like" them. This means I will only recieve messages from folks I want messages from. This means that if I choose not to "like" someone, I probably don't want a message from them.

Soooooooo.... why would I care if I missed "liking" someone who "liked" me? Isn't the whole point that if I don't think someone is interesting, they stay off my radar and I don't need to worry about them? Why would I pay for the privilege of knowing that the folks I decided weren't interesting, were interested in me? And if I wanted to know, couldn't I just "like" them? I think you fundamentally misunderstand the service you're trying to provide, here.

Comments

[yarrowkat]

i have a bunch of stuff about my garden in my profile, too. though i don't mention killing animals to eat - i do link out to the farm webpage, to get rid of people who just want to ask me about the farm and have no interest in me as a person (because i am indescribably tired of that on dating apps), and it's clear from there that we raise animals to eat.

[greenstorm]

I am very specifically screening out One True Way vegans. I just don't have it in me to do those conversations.

[yarrowkat]

omg seriously. that is so exhausting to have to deal with. it's a red flag for me if someone says they're a vegan - they will have to prove they are not getting their veganism on everybody else before i will want to interact with them!

[greenstorm]

Yeah, for me too. I've met maybe two vegans I've been able to have discussions with about food/environment/ecosystems; the rest I evade. And obviously I am both interested in those topics and they make up a huge part of my life so those other folks aren't super suitable as companions.

[yarrowkat]

yeah, if someone is going to disapprove of me for eating meat, or for raising meat to eat, we might as well not even start. people can choose their own level of involvement in that process, but i get to choose mine, too. and i teach this work!

[greenstorm]

What really gets under my skin is the one-size-fits-all ecological prescriptivists. Oof. Like, disapprove of my moral choices all you want, but do not dare to paint all ecosystems with the same brush. Do that and you do not deserve this planet.

Ha. Definitely a pet peeve.