You don't know me

[greenstorm]

I have a new favourite line, which is "I get to decide what I'm [thinking/feeling/getting from this/willing to compromise]" and it feels amazing to use it. This is truly the joy of a three-year-old who's learned to say "no". It's liberating and empowering and tends to leave the folks who were using me as a prop in their own internal dramas speechless.

Someone says they can't do X because I won't want to do Y, and they haven't asked me? Deploy the line.

Someone says they think they're getting more out of an interaction than I am? Deploy the line.

I have not needed to deploy the line with my regular folks in a long time, which is lovely. It's good to have this tool going out into the world.