Sadness, or, trust part II
May. 2nd, 2022 10:41 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
greenstormSo trust gets broken when I expect something of people beyond what they give.
An additional layer of distrust comes in when I have to disbelieve someone's words or offers when they make them to me.
Originally A&E invited me down there to live and said I wouldn't have to work to cover, at least, my food and my animals and my housing.
I said I wouldn't go down without a budget and some sort of separation agreement, since I would be putting aside my house and my career for this; the payoff might be something that I really wanted, but nothing is certain and I wanted to understand the scale of the risk and put plans in place to ameliorate it.
Looking at the budget it was clear they couldn't offer what they said they could.
I asked for some work on how we could make this more realistic: alternative suggestions for income streams or cost reductions, basically.
They're offering the same sort of broad suggestions. I made them some budgeting sheets to put numbers in to see if their suggestions have a chance of working. It maybe makes sense to run suggestions past me before reality-checking them? But I'm tired.
An additional layer of distrust comes in when I have to disbelieve someone's words or offers when they make them to me.
Originally A&E invited me down there to live and said I wouldn't have to work to cover, at least, my food and my animals and my housing.
I said I wouldn't go down without a budget and some sort of separation agreement, since I would be putting aside my house and my career for this; the payoff might be something that I really wanted, but nothing is certain and I wanted to understand the scale of the risk and put plans in place to ameliorate it.
Looking at the budget it was clear they couldn't offer what they said they could.
I asked for some work on how we could make this more realistic: alternative suggestions for income streams or cost reductions, basically.
They're offering the same sort of broad suggestions. I made them some budgeting sheets to put numbers in to see if their suggestions have a chance of working. It maybe makes sense to run suggestions past me before reality-checking them? But I'm tired.
