Step 3: Implement

[greenstorm]

Tucker is coming up over Solstice. Mom is coming up in the beginning of July. I'm going to talk to Avi about coming up July/Aug, and likewise Nicholas. Also gonna try and get Tucker to come back up in there somewhere, ideally once a month or so? Josh will be here in Sept. The plan is to take Angus to the Salt Spring Apple Festival in Oct, if it happens. Kelsey will arrive in PG in Sept and be super busy but at least closer. I'm reaching out to talk to her more and it is, as always, wonderful.

Met one person in the next town over in the queer group online to go walking with, not a date or anything, just... someone maybe likeminded.

Starting to maybe gather people for the fall harvest festival here, I need to talk to them about the date.

I'm wearing my ring. It's a gold ring, on my wedding finger. Realized I'm not sure what to say when someone at work asks me about it: "oh yeah, I'm wedded to my land, agriculture, and the goddess Demeter" I guess. That'll go over well. I guess I spent the last couple years worrying about what would go over well and it didn't serve me; I'm grateful to my interactions with J for breaking me out of that cage. No sense in climbing back into it now.

Comments

[yarrowkat]

you could always say, "oh, i'm not married; it's just a personal thing" or "it fits that finger best, that's all" or "it was my grandmother's" if you didn't want people to know. :)

[greenstorm]

I *really* need to not be actively lying about it. I may well come up with something that's a gentle ease-in to what it is, "that's personal" comes closest maybe. I'm usually good at that sort of thing but I've been hiding too many years.

I am curious what folks would say if I said I was married to the goddess Demeter though.

[yarrowkat]

fair! that makes lots of sense.

maybe it'll be a great conversation starter? ;)

[greenstorm]

Sadly I'm not sure the folks at work are able to have those kinds of conversations. IF it did start a conversation, I'd know I was talking to someone worth talking to!

[yarrowkat]

it's a screening tool!

[greenstorm]

My entire existence is a screening tool.

I just need fresh material to run through the screen. The old stuff seems to all be sorted at this point.

[yarrowkat]

I'm picturing a giant compost sifter screening people, most of them bouncing away but a few slip through

[greenstorm]

Eee! I only wish I had that many to filter through. But yes.