Found in the wild
Jun. 27th, 2022 01:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
greenstormQuote:
"One skill I draw on a lot I learned from DBT is when having hard conversations, you can generally prioritize 1. getting what you want/need, 2. the relationship with the other person, or 3. your self-respect. Sometimes you can get all of them, but often you have to choose. So here while I would love to just say “don’t comment on my body,” the softer messaging will get you #1 and #2, and for me wouldn’t cost a significant amount of #3. Being strategic and intentional helps me figure out these kinds of situations at work and resolve them in a way that feels authentic and right to me without alienating the other person, even when they’re being an ass."
"One skill I draw on a lot I learned from DBT is when having hard conversations, you can generally prioritize 1. getting what you want/need, 2. the relationship with the other person, or 3. your self-respect. Sometimes you can get all of them, but often you have to choose. So here while I would love to just say “don’t comment on my body,” the softer messaging will get you #1 and #2, and for me wouldn’t cost a significant amount of #3. Being strategic and intentional helps me figure out these kinds of situations at work and resolve them in a way that feels authentic and right to me without alienating the other person, even when they’re being an ass."
