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I guess I spent my 20s and 30s learning just how real economic stratification is, and how heritable it is. Now I'm spending my 40s watching just how hard it is for folks to fall out of that class. Job loss? Can't work regular hours? Not gonna be paid? It'll probably turn out alright, just get a job with no fixed hours that pays you three times as much? Burnt out? Just make a shitton of money and retire early, or take a couple years off. It's unreal.

I'm starting to think a lot of my friends are wealthy because of survivor bias. If you're neurodivergent and not wealthy you're probably in a gutter or barely functional, so the folks who have energy to reach out in their 30s and 40s are the ones who are left: the wealthy ones. Or, supported by a partner.

I am not one of the wealthy ones.

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[donnaidh_sidhe]

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I'm sorry. That's really hard.

Throughout these plague times I've been trying to remain in touch with those close to me who don't have the supports you describe so that I could give some meaningful support and help them be more able to help themselves. The entire time I've been thinking about similar things to what you've written here.

I've never considered myself someone who can offer meaningful support to you, but I'd be happy to know if I'm wrong and what would work. I don't have a lot of juice left these days, but you are someone I'd be happy to save some for.