Mouth of Desire.

[greenstorm]

I've 'learned' something very interesting about myself, or realised it.

Now that I'm 'dating' again (and I really am now-- people make me excited and happy to be around them, and even to be intimate with them, again) I find that I have three kinds of desire. There's desire for emotional closeness, for physical closeness, and for sex.

The desire for sex manifests behind my belly-button, as one would expect. However, the desire for physical closeness, or for emotional closeness, manifests in my mouth.

That's right. That's where the feeling of longing/wanting is centred, and it's odd.

I think this may be related to the fact that kissing and emotional connection are closely related for me. That is, I'm not comfortable kissing someone I'm not emotionally connected with, and when I'm emotionally connected to someone, kissing seems like a top-three activity.

Every once in awhile, if it's physical closeness, it switches to the outside of my upper arms for awhile, and then goes back to my mouth.

This has been the Amusing Greenstorm Fact #671.

Comments

[khamura.livejournal.com]

Good to hear you're dating again. :)

Interesting bit about the desire of physical closeness thing, because it doesn't seem to be much different for me. I know that upper arms thing, I get that too. The mouth bit less so, but perhaps that is simply less strong for me? Who knows. Interesting all the same. :>

[echo2oak.livejournal.com]

This is really interesting... I've never thought to track my visceral reactions/signals before...except in identifying fear and anxiety.

I guess for me, then my need for emotional closeness is sensed in the back of my head as something visual and aural in nature. When I'm attracted to someone, there is a pull that comes from there, a need to turn my head and pay attention to my 'target.' The physical manifestation is in my skin, either my cheek, lips, fingertips, and arms. Sometimes my feet, even.

Sexual, well, definitely a buzzy first chakra *blush and grin*.

What's interesting for me, though, is that as I've tried to meet new people, I've had this visual/aural pull from some, and not for others, but I've ignored the sensation because I thought it wasn't 'open' enough to the possibilities our lifestyle offers. I think by ignoring this, however, I've tried to create scenarios that wouldn't normally happen.

On the flip side, I have followed the sensation and have been rejected, which may be why I've taken the rejection so hard.

In any case, I intend on paying more attention to those sensations, and I imagine I'll save myself some heartache and misunderstanding in the future.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!