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Working Through
Oct. 14th, 2018 04:54 pmExperimented with setting boundaries. It went really well.
Makes it easier to try setting them in other ways.
Therapists' tool was: take your worry (I worry you won't have time for me anymore). Flip it into what you want (I want to spend [a lot] of time talking to you most weeks). There you have what you want in a relationship.
I have been applying this to everything with the delight of a kidlet given a hammer for the first time and finding that the whole world is a nail.
It's been really good. I feel centered, not off-balance or reactive.
Makes it easier to try setting them in other ways.
Therapists' tool was: take your worry (I worry you won't have time for me anymore). Flip it into what you want (I want to spend [a lot] of time talking to you most weeks). There you have what you want in a relationship.
I have been applying this to everything with the delight of a kidlet given a hammer for the first time and finding that the whole world is a nail.
It's been really good. I feel centered, not off-balance or reactive.
