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Aug. 19th, 2003 11:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
greenstormOooooookay. Tiiiiired.
Talked to the Juggler. Turns out he offered me the reassurance I needed, and he ended up being very solicitous of my needs and very sensible. It didn't help that I kept losing track of the conversation because I'm completely exhausted. We didn't come to a 100% resolution, but we're at a comfortable place pending more discussion at the same bat time, same bat channel next week.
Interim should be comfortable. Goodwill of us both to work on the thing and to compromise with each other established. The major miscommunications that we've made and the major omissions in what we've said have not yet shown up, and may not for a couple of weeks.
Yay, processing. I love the way he gives me the feeling he's working -with- me. The SO does too, when we get off the 'arguement' part and on to the 'support' part. it makes the relationships feel like partnerships, and that's important to me.
With TOW, when we actually talk instead of dance around each other, stuff gets resolved quickly and easily enough that there's not dissonance to work through. It just melts. That's /really/ nice.
It's definitely an important factor in my relationships, then. Trust in the skills and working will of everyone involved.
Now, I really hope I can sleep. I've been waking up at 3am, and that's just too early. I'm flattened, and tomorrow's gonna be a long day.
This message contains a hug to TOW, because she understands being confused and tired during processing now. It contains a hug to the SO, for letting me cry earlier. And it contains a hug for the Juggler for holding my hand through the discussion while I stumbled along.
It also contains a hug to you, because you care gently, from a distance that doesn't need processing tonight. Be well, be at peace, and I.... may well see you this weekend. It's a full one and kicks off tomorrow at five. :)
Talked to the Juggler. Turns out he offered me the reassurance I needed, and he ended up being very solicitous of my needs and very sensible. It didn't help that I kept losing track of the conversation because I'm completely exhausted. We didn't come to a 100% resolution, but we're at a comfortable place pending more discussion at the same bat time, same bat channel next week.
Interim should be comfortable. Goodwill of us both to work on the thing and to compromise with each other established. The major miscommunications that we've made and the major omissions in what we've said have not yet shown up, and may not for a couple of weeks.
Yay, processing. I love the way he gives me the feeling he's working -with- me. The SO does too, when we get off the 'arguement' part and on to the 'support' part. it makes the relationships feel like partnerships, and that's important to me.
With TOW, when we actually talk instead of dance around each other, stuff gets resolved quickly and easily enough that there's not dissonance to work through. It just melts. That's /really/ nice.
It's definitely an important factor in my relationships, then. Trust in the skills and working will of everyone involved.
Now, I really hope I can sleep. I've been waking up at 3am, and that's just too early. I'm flattened, and tomorrow's gonna be a long day.
This message contains a hug to TOW, because she understands being confused and tired during processing now. It contains a hug to the SO, for letting me cry earlier. And it contains a hug for the Juggler for holding my hand through the discussion while I stumbled along.
It also contains a hug to you, because you care gently, from a distance that doesn't need processing tonight. Be well, be at peace, and I.... may well see you this weekend. It's a full one and kicks off tomorrow at five. :)
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Date: 2003-08-20 07:30 am (UTC)Yeah, I've noticed that too -- even if we're talking about something that I've been dreading, once we actually open it up it gets resolved painlessly (or almost, anyway :-) I can honestly say that I've never really enjoyed that ease of communication with anyone before -- it's great. I think I am learning things from you ;-)
*hug* back to you, sweetie -- call me when you're in town, cuz I'd love to meet for tea and I want to give you that transit pass!
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Date: 2003-08-20 07:44 am (UTC)I'll sail through Wednesday for the six seconds necessary to lift the pass off your table. We'll do tea Thursday afternoon (in Stanley Park? You have that thermos and I can bring a slushie stand-in...) and the rest of the weekend will fall together as planned.
It's cool to be a sweetie!
*morehugs*
*falls over asleep*
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Date: 2003-08-20 08:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-08-20 06:23 pm (UTC):)
Hmm. We could meet at Trout Lake briefly before I do Andrew-stuff, or we could work it in on a morning(gasp) when nothing else is going on.
I'll talk when I get there for the pass today, it should be around 9:30 pmish.
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Date: 2003-08-20 09:00 pm (UTC)Ahhh, Complificinications.
Date: 2003-08-20 09:05 pm (UTC)Re: Ahhh, Complificinications.
Date: 2003-08-20 09:13 pm (UTC)