Beth Asked:

[greenstorm]

"Would you like to settle down someday, with all that entails?"

Interesting question. I'd consider that I *have* settled down. As I said the other day, if I had my 'druthers, I'd not be moderating myself so much and moving so slowly in my life, but I've found that slow-moving, predictable, controlled-change things make for a better community around me, and my community and the people in it (CrazyChris, Juggler, Graham, Trevor, Tillie, Bevan's getting in there) are so absolutely important to me that I'll allow that influence to moderate me. That's settling down. So's coming home every day to snuggle the rats.

Unless this is the typical question about poly-partners, where I'll admit that I don't think sexual exclusivity is 'settled down' for me. You can't imagine how much more flighty I'd be. I do intend to live in a house that has a garden where I don't move a lot.

Comments

[cz_unit]

Settle down is a relative term. I guess I have settled down in some ways, life is quiet and interesting and the chaos is minimal. I guess if it means "lack o drama" then I'm pretty happy to be settled right now.

And one can be settled and poly. Alex, Bec, and I putter along quite nicely. No real posts on it because it's not really a big deal I guess. It just is, no drama, nice to have a friend to come and babysit, nice to be able to go over and fix gutters, nice to fuck like weasels, or whatever.

CZ

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

Yes, I have only a tiny bit of drama lately, and that's pretty low-key.

It is nice. :)

[algae-al-fresco.livejournal.com]

I meant a house and a garden, and contentment in one place. It's odd, I have the desire to have a place where I can have a garden and a home and have it settled, but at the same time I have this intense desire to travel all the time. hm.

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

I want that very much, it's finding the place that can bestow contentment that's hard for me. I never want to travel, oddly-- just to live here, smewhere, with my garden and stuff.