On Women, Addendum

[greenstorm]

I am also less critical of women, or of her, and less likely to hold to my boundaries because I find myself thinking/acting as if she 'can't help it', as if some of the behaviours I have issues with are things I just have to live with in her where I wouldn't think to be okay with them on a male. I don't speak up about the behaviours.

I got carried away discussing how I was more critical and forgot to add how I was less so: it's an important point, and ties in, perhaps, to resentment that I've had to be unwomanly and not do these things and yet it's generally okay for her to do them. The double standard feels confining, or something.

Note that this is all very abstract and semi-guesswork at this point, with few clear examples remembered.

Comments

[darthmaus.livejournal.com]

We should talk about this stuff over a nice big pot of tea -- perhaps tomorrow? I'm curious about what you're wrestling with here, and I suspect that (as usual) I may be dealing with some similar issues.

It's just the one trust thing that I've managed to get through (possibly just with you, not globally). I still have issues, believe me ;-)

See you tonight, sweetie!

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

It's stuff that only comes up when I'm very gentle with myself and I'm outside it, thus far. It would be good to talk about, but it would need to be approached in a leisurely conversational sort of way when there wasn't other business to worry me. We'll see if I can prompt it by giving you a rundown of the stuff I've written here, but that may not work right at first.

So we'll sit down with a pot of tea and see what happens, but you'll need to forgive me if the interesting bits are a little slow in coming out and it takes a different day to get to the bottom of it.

[darthmaus.livejournal.com]

No trouble, I ain't going anywhere ;-)