The midnight breakup

[greenstorm]

It's a significant level of relationship manipulation and sabotage to move to a remote location with someone, refuse to discuss the relationship with them, and then as soon as it's clear they'll be moving away to suddenly be ok discussing what you want the relationship to be. It doesn't allow any time to see how the relationship agreement will go before committing to the next step. It specifically sidelines my ability to test his relationship agreements for reliability before committing.