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[greenstorm]

It looks like he'll always do the thing and tell me after.

What does the connecting look like going forward, knowing that?

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[cz_unit]

Eh, you either accept it as "well that's how it happens" or it bombs.

[greenstorm]

Definitely! I've got the the acceptance, I'm not sure what it looks like structurally yet. Certainly not a structure with shared decisions!

[yarrowkat]

damnit, Tucker. i suppose, at least that means you can predict his behavior reliably now.

[greenstorm]

Probably not -- he's been on quite a trajectory, and this is certainly better than not being able to know what he wants at all. Probably someday he'll feel like he can stand up for his needs before finalizing a decision irrevocably, and then share the decision with someone before he pulls that trigger. But. I have to act as if I can predict his behaviour.

[yarrowkat]

oof. much sympathy to you. i hope you find a balance between you that works and that meets enough needs to be worth it.