Two Notes to Self

[greenstorm]

The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense by Suzette Hadin-Elgin

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When some people are hurt, they do things like toss around ultimatums.

I should try not to do that.

Comments

[estrellada.livejournal.com]

Ultimatums suck.

What really sucks is it's hard to sometimes tell a boundary from an ultimatum.

I guess if I could divide them up, a boundary is there to protect yourself, and an ultimatum is used to push others away ot punish them.

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

A boundary is what you can't do; an ultimatum is saying that you won't do it? ;)

[darthmaus.livejournal.com]

Hrm, how 'bout: a boundary is what you can't do, while an ultimatum is saying "You must do this, or else"?

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

Well, yes. If you can't meet the boundaries, then I just can't do this. You must do at least this, or else my end will change drastically. I believe this is semantics right now, though. I honestly don't see a real difference in those statements as I read them.