Over The Bump

[greenstorm]

I'm over the emotional bump now, and everything is once again in perspective. After all, nothing has actually changed. It's amazing how strong my first reactions are, which then dissipate into pretty much nothing.

The decision between Chris and I to be primaries and all the rest was done in full knowledge, after all.

And look, it's sunny out.

Jeh. Sometimes I wonder about myself, emotionally. Cause... it was a really big deal, and I knew from experience that it wouldn't be for long, and lo! It really isn't. :/ I'm so reactive.

Comments

Coping With Reactions

[wordbinder.livejournal.com]

Kham wrote: In my experience knowing that something is a Big Deal, and simultaneously knowing that It Will Be Over doesn't change anything about the necessity of letting the Big Deal happen first.

And I agree. I think many fool themselves into thinking that processing internally is better than processing externally. What's important is that the processing happens at all! I tend to be the stew internally, react externally, stew internally about the reaction, feel better afterward sort of person. It's just that this process can take mere seconds or years, depending on how much I'm stuffing feelings at the time.

Glad things are better, and I'm happy for you and your new SO!

Re: Coping With Reactions

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

Glad things are better, and I'm happy for you and your new SO!

Oh, Gods, thank you so much. :)

Re: Coping With Reactions

[wordbinder.livejournal.com]

*wink* You seem surprised!

*hug* You're welcome.

Re: Coping With Reactions

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

I don't actually know who you are, but I think you're one of the first people that said that.

Re: Coping With Reactions

[devi-sage.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's Echo2Oak. :) Looks like she was signed into her new "storyteller" account.

But I wanted to say that I too am very happy that you found someone to give you proper time and attention. Or so it does read as. On with more happy. :D