Relationship Craziness

[greenstorm]

Okay. I've had three major relationship talks - the hard, exhausting kind -- with three different people in the last twenty-four hours. This is like a steamroller. I have one minor relationship and one major relationship that haven't needed maintenance and we're almost to the 24-hour mark, the rest of you had better hurry up to make it in.

I feel completely drained. I really need to figure out what to do in these situations. I don't think the dicussions will get easier, though I used to believe they would as I got better at communicating. I think I just need to learn to say, come talk to me next Wednesday when my batteries are recharged, if it can't wait you're down by one SO.

It feels immoral to say that, really wrong. Is it? No one's there for me 24 hours a day, and that's not through lack of will, that's through ability and prior commitments. Should I stop stretching my ability and bashing my prior commitments?

I need to figure out my boundaries.

Comments

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

Actually, I haven't yet worried about that one -- not for years, I don't think. I really do trust the people in my life to make decisions based on data that we sit down and talk about and come to some marginal sort of consensus with, if nothing else.

I have an extremely, extremely low tolerance for being in the middle of a conflict, which is probably why it doesn't come up. I haven't yet learnt the fine art of shelving it and relaxing for a little bit to reset the perspective, or whatever. So I can grudgingly accept the need for a couple of hours sleep, but leaving it unresolved just kills me.

I need to get over that one, right? Because then if I decline to discuss something at a particular time it's pretty much equally stressful to discussing it.

[breklor.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you do need to get over that one... :)

[greenstorm.livejournal.com]

Easy part down. Now for the how.