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Jun. 23rd, 2005
I've been defining my boundaries in various areas lately. F'rinstance, Juggler's way more paranoid about safe-sex stuff than I am, so I'd just been following his stuff for a long time, but recently I wrote up a list about where I am on that sort of thing.
Administrative stuff on Chia has been eased a bit as I set boundaries around how much 'staff' stuff I'll do as a 'friend'.
Work's more comfortable as I decide how many hours next week I'll work maximum.
Socialising is better as I use instinct and common sense to choose the events I wanna go to and then stick to those.
I notice that if I decide how I want stuff, whether or not it's necessary to know right then, I get into a much better mindspace around it.
Some statements/whatever around relationships, some a little silly:
o No relationships with auto-veto beyond the first six months.
o No new cap-R Relationships three months or less after the past one has ended.
o No one who's not willing to come to my house sometimes.
o No one with untreated mental illnesses (not necessarily medicated).
o No one who's free five or more nights per week on average.
o No one who won't or can't use a condom but has a cock.
o No first-time-with-girls.
o No one who lives with their parents.
o No one who's never held a firm job.
o No live-ins ever without absolute complete free use of the house for me, incl. for poly stuff.
o No one who won't call me back reliably.
Man, it's like being two and discovering the word 'no' all over again.
Administrative stuff on Chia has been eased a bit as I set boundaries around how much 'staff' stuff I'll do as a 'friend'.
Work's more comfortable as I decide how many hours next week I'll work maximum.
Socialising is better as I use instinct and common sense to choose the events I wanna go to and then stick to those.
I notice that if I decide how I want stuff, whether or not it's necessary to know right then, I get into a much better mindspace around it.
Some statements/whatever around relationships, some a little silly:
o No relationships with auto-veto beyond the first six months.
o No new cap-R Relationships three months or less after the past one has ended.
o No one who's not willing to come to my house sometimes.
o No one with untreated mental illnesses (not necessarily medicated).
o No one who's free five or more nights per week on average.
o No one who won't or can't use a condom but has a cock.
o No first-time-with-girls.
o No one who lives with their parents.
o No one who's never held a firm job.
o No live-ins ever without absolute complete free use of the house for me, incl. for poly stuff.
o No one who won't call me back reliably.
Man, it's like being two and discovering the word 'no' all over again.
OMGOMGOMG!
Jun. 23rd, 2005 10:29 amHaulout today. That means we drive the boat upriver and pull it out of the water. Then we spend a long time scraping the bottom and stuff for the next couple of days.
Last time the boat almost sank! This is exciting! If you're free from 4pm on and want to do exciting things, and have a level head under stress, let me know!
Exciting! Boat! Water! River! Diesel! Incoherency! Whee!
Last time the boat almost sank! This is exciting! If you're free from 4pm on and want to do exciting things, and have a level head under stress, let me know!
Exciting! Boat! Water! River! Diesel! Incoherency! Whee!
