Population Density

I guess I haven't hopped on okc anywhere other than the north for just shy of a decade? Set my location to the North Island the other day and gave myself a radius that just clipped the mainland and wow! Autistic folks, plenty of space outside the gender binary, lots of humans, it's kind of nice to see. Super interesting how people use specific causes to flag their identities/in-groups, too-- I'm inclined to be wary of that, but we shall see.

Anyhow, there are in fact new folks on there since I was last down south, but fewer new folks than you might think. We'll see where this goes. It would be nice to have some folks close by to connect with when I get down there, and doubly nice to have someone/some folks around compatible for sex.

Sigh

Dear okc.

You're set up tinder-style now, which means that for someone to message me I need to "like" them. This means I will only recieve messages from folks I want messages from. This means that if I choose not to "like" someone, I probably don't want a message from them.

Soooooooo.... why would I care if I missed "liking" someone who "liked" me? Isn't the whole point that if I don't think someone is interesting, they stay off my radar and I don't need to worry about them? Why would I pay for the privilege of knowing that the folks I decided weren't interesting, were interested in me? And if I wanted to know, couldn't I just "like" them? I think you fundamentally misunderstand the service you're trying to provide, here.