My Way or the Highway
Jun. 2nd, 2003 01:46 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
greenstormI'm beginning to learn some things, or perhaps beginning to formulate some things into words that I've learnt gradually over the last little while.
One of these things is that life isn't a matter of getting exactly what you want or going without. Life is a matter of finding things you want and deciding which compromises you need to undergo to get them -- whether that's compromising in other parts of your life, or compromising your wants, or compromising the parts of the thing you get isn't the issue.
The issue is simply that you shouldn't discard something outright just because some parts aren't exactly as you want them.
It seems kind of obvious, written down, and I've always been a proponent of not allowing a lack of compromise in myself, with my own weird issues, to get in the way of things I want. I hadn't connected it to being able to accept parts of something until now. And I realise, too, that not doing something out of the fear that you'll do it, like it, and then have the loss of losing it is kind of silly most of the time. Better to do and have at least that, and mourn and then let the loss go if it comes along?
My current lack of understanding centers more around which things actually are okay to discard or pass up, what too difficult really means, and where my boundaries are.
Now, a search for yellow-flowered ground cover.
One of these things is that life isn't a matter of getting exactly what you want or going without. Life is a matter of finding things you want and deciding which compromises you need to undergo to get them -- whether that's compromising in other parts of your life, or compromising your wants, or compromising the parts of the thing you get isn't the issue.
The issue is simply that you shouldn't discard something outright just because some parts aren't exactly as you want them.
It seems kind of obvious, written down, and I've always been a proponent of not allowing a lack of compromise in myself, with my own weird issues, to get in the way of things I want. I hadn't connected it to being able to accept parts of something until now. And I realise, too, that not doing something out of the fear that you'll do it, like it, and then have the loss of losing it is kind of silly most of the time. Better to do and have at least that, and mourn and then let the loss go if it comes along?
My current lack of understanding centers more around which things actually are okay to discard or pass up, what too difficult really means, and where my boundaries are.
Now, a search for yellow-flowered ground cover.
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Date: 2003-06-02 04:25 pm (UTC)Ah, yes, here it is:
Satan's Spreading Sunshine (Satanicus groundis)
Colour: Yellow
Soil: Dry, plenty of brimstone
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Date: 2003-06-02 04:51 pm (UTC)My point is proven.